Another great article, Bonnie! I personally don’t think that with the premise of dating eventually but trying to be friends first ever works. Some people might be deluding themselves into thinking that this is more organic — but it’s not. It only works when the two of you met on non-dating related occasions (like work or social gathering) and naturally became friends because you have things in common. As you hang out more, both of you start to develop feelings for each other. That’s the only way I know has worked for most people — and frankly the best way to meet someone, albeit the hardest for some people who have less luck in that area (aka me and many others). It’s good that you gave it a shot and know for sure that it doesn’t work.