Bonnie, I am one of those people who got really annoyed hearing how he treated you. But I also know exactly why you still wanted him after all these years and all the crap you put up with. I spent a year of my life with the wrong guy just like him (maybe even worse than him) and I made excuses time after time to stick around until I looked into the mirror and I pitied myself. I have learned a big lesson since and will never entertain the thought of being involved with him again but I still think about him a lot. Special connections like the ones we’ve experienced don’t happen often — a lot of people have never had them! It’s like a drug that keeps us addicted but we know better now that it’s bad for us. We get treated badly in relationships because we don’t make it a REQUIREMENT to be treated well. We let them and therefore they dare. I hope your new home will give you a fresh start!