It’s Us, Not Them

Learning from my most memorable failed dates

“It’s them. Not me.”

What a lovely antithesis to the oh-so-familar “It’s not you. It’s me”.

We often hear frustrated daters whine about how modern dating has become a mind-numbing chore. I used to be that person. After all, the dating scene nowadays is nothing short of brutal.

Compared to my professional resume, my dating resume is abysmal.

Compared to my professional resume, my dating resume is abysmal.

I have not yet slept with half of Manhattan like Samantha Jones in Sex and the City nor have I snatched myself a husband like most of my college and high school classmates.

At a certain point, after swiping through all eligible men in the 25 mile radius, I started to wonder — is it possible that it’s not them?

Could it be us?

I decided to reflect on some of the most memorable dates I’ve had in my 20s to find the answer.

Top Date #1: The Booty Call Hotelier

When I first started online dating, I met Guy #1 through eHarmony. Yes, you read it right. Rather than going with free websites, I, fresh out of college, decided to go straight to a paid website…