This is easily the best article related to sex written by a man that I’ve ever come across. We need more men like you, Scott Gilman! When I see an attractive man on the streets, I, as a heterosexual woman, would think “Wow, he is cute. I wonder if he thinks I’m attractive too”, not “I bet I could get him.” It’s only natural that we think about other people who we find attractive in a sexual light, but the subtle nuances of our subconscious thoughts do matter. We won’t achieve true gender equality until both men and women start viewing each other as fellow human beings who are more than their perceived physical attractiveness. Bravo on your excellent writing and reflection!