Your piece really hit the nail on the head for me. I just went through a very similar situation. He was extremely nice to me — probably nicer than anyone else I have ever dated. Yet I found out he wasn’t serious about the relationship at all. He confessed that he was still trying to find himself and what he wants and all of a sudden he found it — wanting to get married and have kids but just not with me. I got super confused and couldn’t get over the fact that all of his nice gestures meant nothing. It is getting harder and harder to tell the difference — he wasn’t even going to tell me that he’s not interested in a relationship with me anymore until I asked him out to dinner and point blank asked him. I appreciated all the nice things he has done, but I do think that we need to start being very clear to people we date. And questions need to be asked a lot sooner. Thank you for sharing your experience!